We all need companionship, care, nurturing, to be understood
and feel we are a valued part of our small corner of the world. When these
needs are not met, people can feel lonely or isolated, craving social
interaction with friends and family. Loneliness can also be understood as the
effect of being deprived of a world and public space where we share the highs
and lows of collective life (Enns, 2022). That shared world can be achieved in
many ways, with social connection and community fundamental to addressing
loneliness and isolation.
Strong ties, typically characterised by close relationships,
undoubtedly contribute to a sense of belonging. What is less talked about is
the ‘strength of weak ties’, the connections often established in casual
encounters. These are vital threads in the intricate fabric of society, helping
people feel integrated in their communities and connected to others.
I leave my house one morning and exchange a few words with
my neighbour before continuing the walk to school with my daughter. There I
have a brief chat with other parents before walking home. I stop off at a
coffee shop, exchange some light-hearted chat with the barista and other
customers. These are not strangers; my neighbour knows who I am and who I live
with, knows when I’m on holidays and entertaining friends; I have similar
knowledge of her social circles. The barista knows what coffee I usually order.
These everyday encounters, although brief, hold potential to foster a sense of
familiarity and shared identity. In a diverse and changing society, these
interactions provide opportunities for people from various backgrounds to
momentarily connect, engage in small talk, share stories, and build empathy—an
essential foundation for community cohesion.
The Threading Place project sheds light on these invisible
threads that are woven between one person and another, highlighting how we
experience society in every interaction:
On every day, at every hour, such threads are spun, are allowed to
fall, are taken up again, replaced by others, intertwined with others. Here lie
the interactions… (Simmel, 1997)